Ugh, another day in this house. So basically my entire summer was spent doing nothing. If you want to count cooking and cleaning as something then yeah, I did that, but it wasn't important so I really would have rather have spent it with either someone (that does not include my sister) or doing something memorable. I've been to a few parties, hung out with a few friends, but really I've had better summers. There are two things that did happen to me that I think are awesome. First of all I got my license on August 1. The week before that and the week after that were spent with my aunt who visited us from Mexico. She was coming for my graduation party but due to the fact that I had to change the date, she couldn't stay and so she instead spent two weeks with us.
I have to say that in that time, inevitable things happened. To be honest, they were very stupid and pointless but alas, they happened and I'm gonna evaluate the outcome.
Starting by my aunt's visit...
Background: Her mother took care of my sister and me when we lived in Mexico and were wee bee little. She is a teacher and my inspiration. Along with her mom and her sister and a variety of family friends, they raised us. I have all kinds of lovely memories of those years I spent and all the fun I had along my sister, the dogs and cats and well of course my aunts and uncles.
Visit: She comes every once in a while because her brother lives here and well, so do we. She isn't married or has kids and therefore has no compromises. Usually my uncle brings her over and she will sleep with us for a few days but this time he left her here the entire week, two weeks actually. In those two weeks, we got an update on the family situation in Mexico, which isn't favorable... well besides that, I get to listen to her and my mom talk for hours and hours reminiscing. I love to hear people tell anecdotes, specially if in them I identify myself. She also likes to tell us a lot of things that we used to do and say when we were little and they took care of us. Such funny stories make me proud and happy of the way I was raised, always being allowed to say my opinion, speak my mind, and expanding my imagination to every corner of that house.
Evaluation:Not only that but I also learned that I've changed very little in this aspect. Of course I've matured a lot and wouldn't call my mom for making my lunch wrong, but those little things that I used to do, I still do but in a slightly different way. My ways of thinking have also changed and so have my likes, but that is a natural process of life. I know that when and if I get to be 50 years old, I probably won't obsess about pink and Maroon 5, so I make my point. There are of course things that I still like and behaviors that have not changed about me, such as making myself be heard, but again, these things I do differently. I like the way I am and the way I was raised; have I always agreed? No. Nevertheless, I appreciate it.
Conclusion: I am the person that I was thought to be, not just by my parents but by everything that has surrounded me my entire life. The only thing that I expect from people is that they have an original personality. You can never admire or blame a child's conduct on the child, it is the parents who are to be admired or blamed. I'm not perfect and I make mistakes but that again is part of learning. The most beautiful thing about this process is that one not only learns right and wrong, but forgiveness as well.
I'd like to ask all my friends from here on to evaluate me. I say that there are two types of friends and no its is not a good and bad friend, its an honest and dishonest friend. I think I've criticized hypocrisy many times, perhaps in this blog or out loud but if you don't know by now reader, I don't tolerate hypocrisy. Now now, don't be too haste to make accusations, let me explain starting by the two types of friends. Honesty is quite an admirable and brave quality. It takes guts to be honest because people are more bound to follow the crowd than to stay honest to themselves. When someone is making a mistake, especially if they are my friend, I cannot stand there and be a spectator!
I just can't. Once, I make my point its up to them, but if they continue, I won't mind being obvious. I will make it as evident as possible that I do not agree with such behavior.
Example: You are about to see that a baby is about to fall off a bed. Are you gonna sit there and watch??? Just because its a baby and he doesn't know doesn't mean that you are gonna let it happen so he will learn! That is ridiculous. If the baby grows up and then purposefully likes to fall off the bed, then in that case, you can just not do anything about it and not feel bad. You just walk out of the room to not see the child fall and break its arm or leg or head.
What's hypocrisy got anything to do with what kind of friend you or I or anyone else is? Well that being hypocritical goes hand in hand with being a dishonest friend.
I really enjoyed my aunt's visit.
